What Are Friends For?

In this day and age we must be careful who we associate with. I grew up in a wealthy home with a relatively sheltered upbringing. It was not until I had my own children that I discovered how hard it is to find true friends today.

I was very uneasy allowing my children to go over to other people's houses. So as a family we decided that we would not do that. My children would be taught from a young age to watch out for who they were around. So we introduced them to our friends with children. This has worked out perfectly. We have control while teaching them how to interacct with others. We have a controlled environment.

My mother says we are crazy. But I saw what hell other children had to go through because parents did not have the time to teach their children in a controlled environment. Now I have a 14 year old.  She tells me everything going on with her.  She asks me for advice.

The other day she was telling me how her day went.  she was telling me that she saw a little girl being picked on and she reported it to an authority and the authority thanked her.  she asked me what she should do and gave her some advice on a few other minor prblems she was having.  Later in the week, she told me the advice really worked for her.  She actually thanked me.  Now, it is not always so easy with may children, but we try and remmber that the parents are in charge. They are theere to guide, guard, and direct children in a safe path. 

It is really nice for a 14 year old to come up to her mom and say, "Thanks, Mom, you.re a great friend."  I love to respond,  "What are friends for?"

Handling The Information Overload

I set my in advance.

In other words, I set goals, outcomes, or intentions for what I want.  I ask myself, "What do I want in this situation?"  As a result of that clearly defined end result, the mind takes over and prunes the weeds for you: Everything that is relevant to my goal sticks; Everything that is unimportant to it gets pulled oout like the weeds in a garden.

For example, when I was writing my latest e-book, "How To Get Paid Blogging," I was consciously as well as unconsciously on the alert for anything and everything that pertained to the websites, and notes pertaing to getting paid to blog, which will be out very soon keep watching for it.  Anything else rarely got my attention.
Each day when I checked my email box and saw several hundred messages, I was able to move through them quickly by asking myself, "Does this have anything to do with getting paid to blog?" If it did, I read it. If it didn't, I pushed it aside or deleted it.

The same thing happened when people would send me e-books for my review, or when I would get offers to buy more e-books. I love e-books. I think they are the wave of the future. But during the time I was researching and writing Get Paid To Blog, unless the e-book somehow related to that project, I put it aside. If it's not part of what I wanted, my end-result, my goals, I don't want to waste time looking at it. Period.

And that exact same process helps me get through all the information available on the Net. While there may be millions of websites online, maybe only a handful of them are of interest to me when I'm focused on writing Getting Paid to Blog. Those handful are all I want to know about, at least for now.

So there's the key to handling information overload: Set yourmind in advance. A goal. A clear outcome. An end-result. And let it be your goal, your guiding light through the maze of information flooding your mind and fighting for your attention.

By knowing what you want, you create a natural filtering process that eliminates virtually everything not related to achieving your goals.  If you have problems knowing what you want I have a few books you can get and I will list them below, or fell free to tweet me or email me.

To be honest, you may still be distracted from time to time. That's human nature. Forgive yourself, enjoy yourself, and get back to work.  you may have reset your mind by rewriting what you want and your priorities.  The more you can stick with your goals, the more you can survive the blessing and the curse of the Internet: Information Overload.

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